Fostering Fertility
“What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”
- Matthew 19:4–6
The Lord created marriage - it’s a wonderful gift from Him. Like all things He creates, there is a purpose and order to it. Marriage is for creating families and uniting a man and a woman in a holy covenant. His order is singlehood, engagement, marriage, sex, and then childbirth.
Today, many things try to come against what the Lord has created: redefining marriage, contraception, abortion, gender fluidity, physical toxins that affect fertility, and social trends to delay or demean marriage or childbearing.
If you are single but called to the vocation of marriage, there are some ways you can begin to prepare for that special night when you and your husband or wife consummate your holy matrimony.
Mindset
“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord… Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!” - Psalm 127:3–5
It is important to be open to life and understand the blessing it is to have children. If you find yourself scared of childbirth or the “burden” of having children, take that to the Lord. Ask for His help with these fears.
The truth is that you are made for birth, no matter your size. And if you are called to matrimony, God will give you everything you need to have a family and raise children in the faith. He qualifies the called; He doesn’t call the qualified.
To learn more, check out these resources:
True to the Faith
Onan “spilled his seed on the ground” to avoid producing offspring, and God judged this action harshly. - Genesis 38:8–10
The Lord has designed for life to be created anytime a man and a woman come together (barring her natural cycles). Children are to be created inside a family unit with a committed mother and father. Thus, in God’s natural order, sex is reserved for marriage. Even within marriage, no seed is to be split.
If you find yourself engaging in the act outside of marriage, repent and understand how it goes against the Lord and His desires - even more so if contraception is being used inside or outside of marriage.
While Natural Family Planning (NFP) is allowed, total abstinence within marriage and contraception use at all is not.
If you are struggling with lust or objectification, pray and seek help:
Cycle Preparation
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” - Genesis 2:24
To prepare for your wedding night, it’s recommended to begin tracking your cycle months, if not years, in advance if you and your husband have any intention to use NFP. Otherwise, simply have fun and trust in God’s timing!
Here are some apps that can help:
For Single Men
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” - Proverbs 18:22
Our world is full of toxins that can reduce your fertility. From too much estrogen in foods to EMFs from laptops, from drugs and alcohol to endocrine disruptors in plastics and pesticides, from Testosterone supplements and anabolic steroids to storing the cellphone in the front pocket - all of these can affect male fertility.
Some tips to help protect your seeds:
Stop consumption of drugs, alcohol, Testosterone supplements, and anabolic steroids
Use an EMF protector laptop pad and wave stopper briefs, or store your phone elsewhere
Use and reheat food only in glass (non-plastic) containers
Eat organic and non-processed foods as much as possible
Avoid soy products (food, candles, soaps, shaving cream) as soy increases estrogen levels
If you are single, with the vocation of marriage, preparing now brings great benefits to the lucky seed that will become a human on your wedding night.
Building the Foundation
“You knitted me together in my mother’s womb.” - Psalm 139:13–16
Once you are pregnant, you’ll typically be told to eat the food pyramid, take prenatals and iron, and avoid lunch meat. Yet, there is a whole other way of building your baby’s nutritional foundation, and the sooner you can start, the better for you and your baby.
A more holistic diet consists of eating lots of good fats, protein, and organ meats, and checking your vitamin levels with bloodwork. Iron is not a vitamin the body easily disposes of, so if you don’t need it, there’s no need to take it.
In preparation for marriage and new life, have bloodwork done to check your vitamin levels and supplement whatever you need through your diet as much as possible. Cut out processed foods, sugar, artificial and natural flavors, drugs, and alcohol. Ensure you are getting enough sleep and drinking filtered water. This reverse osmosis filter is a great investment for you and your future family, as so many toxins sneak in through your drinking water.
Visit a pelvic floor specialist to determine if your pelvic floor is balanced, too loose, or too tight. Walk daily - this is good for general health too! Start taking a good probiotic to facilitate good vaginal health, and avoid douching. Here are two good options:
Eat good bacteria-supporting foods like kefir, saurkruat, kimchi, and yogurt (not the sugary fake stuff). Switch out home and clothing materials to natural fibers like cotton, linen, hemp, wool, silk, cashmere, and bamboo instead of plastic-based ones: polyester, nylon, acrylic, polypropylene, and spandex (elastane). Start using natural cleaning products.
See if your current products can stay or need to go, and find some alternatives:
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